A little thing called self control

So I work in a psychiatric facility where we have kids on fluoxetine, paroxentine, prozac, adderall, zoloft, clonidine, desipramine, lithium, and risperidone. All these meds for anger, depression, behavior and many other reasons. These therapist and docters prescribe these kids with all these medicines in hope to change their behavior. However, the only thing these medications do is delay the inevitable; they dull the behavior...for a season, for a short time period. What they don't realize or fail to accept is that none of this can "change" them; the meds just delay the inevitable. Its time that we, as people, take charge of our own lives. Its time we have a little thing called self control.

I mean people are being sent to doctors because they eat too much, because they have sex too much, because they get mad every once in a while. YES, they have a problem but its time we start to take responsibility of our own actions. Its time we step up and control our own actions. Example, Tiger Woods just went to therapy and rehab for being a "sex addict!" SERIOUSLY?! Every man has those feelings and desires but most have the ability to control his own desires and has respect for his wife and the other people in his own life. Is this for real?! Come on people!
People are going to the doctors for an eating disorder. HOW BOUT YOU JUST STOP STUFFING YOUR FACE WITH CHEESEBURGERS AND HIT A TREADMILL EVERY ONCE IN A WHILE! We have to start taking responsibility for ourselves!! We have to stop blaming others or shifting the blame onto the concept of "I cant help it-its just the way I am"...Im tired of those words. YOU CAN HELP IT! God has placed self control in us, we just decide to not use it because its easier not to.

People its time we step up and stop shifting blame. Its time we stop blaming our past, our environment, our parents, our homelife, our "weak self"; its time we stop that! At the end of the day-blaming anything else but ourselves means nothing. Its still the end of the day and that "problem" still exists. At the end of the day, if we dont step up and show self control-if we dont accept responsibility; everything is meaningless! Lets step up people-NOTICE I SAID "LETS" AND NOT "YOU"!

The reality of wedding planning

So as you know we've been planning a wedding since Nov. 1st. We got a lot of the big things out of the way; venue, reception, etc. Then after the first surge of "beastly" planning, we kind of hit a lull. We didn't really get much done. However, in the past month or more we have picked it back up. We have been planning and planning and planning. We have booked a photographer (AWESOME by the way, Kenny Fey), we have planned our wedding party,tried on dresses-well not me but Cassie, we have sized, priced, and selected. We know where, who, when, how and all the little knickknacks in between. Were planning how the ceremony will play out, all the songs we'll use, the colors, the styles, and the prices. We've tried to be thrifty, swiftly, crafty, nifty, and all the other y words. We know who's doing what and whats happening when. WE GOT THIS...

BUT WHAT FOR?!?!

Why are we planning so much? Why are we focusing so much on this ONE day? Why, in America, is so much focus, time, money, and effort put into this ONE day? I feel like it should be opposite. All the planning, money, time, effort should be put into the MARRIAGE and the future. The wedding should be so easy to plan--dumb traditions! Why did America and past generations put so much focus on the wedding????? Maybe thats why 50% of every marriage fails....